Yet, in spite of this world-wide system of linkages, there is, at this very moment, a general feeling that communication is breaking down everywhere, on an unparalleled scale. – David Bohm
The Religious Exploration Salon is a group that meets 3rd Sundays at 7pm in the Brackett room to discuss various topics. The current incarnation of our salon was begun in 2011 by interim minister Gary Kowalski and was based on the group reading books on a topic, usually religious. After Gary left we continued but it was difficult to agree on a book and even more difficult to get participants to read enough of a book to be able to participate in meaningful discussion, so attendance at the salon dwindled. In 2014 Paul and Tom visited the UU congregation in Swampscott to experience a different way of having discussions which avoids these problems and provides other benefits. Since then we have followed this practice which is called Bohm Dialogue.
What is Bohm Dialogue
Bohm Dialogue … is a freely-flowing group conversation in which participants attempt to reach a common understanding, experiencing everyone’s point of view fully, equally and nonjudgementally. This can lead to new and deeper understanding. The purpose is to solve the communication crises that face society, and indeed the whole of human nature and consciousness. It utilizes a theoretical understanding of the way thoughts relate to universal reality. It is named after physicist David Bohm who originally proposed this form of dialogue.
Bohm Dialogue Principles:
- Suspend assumptions, do not judge
- Observe & listen to one another
- Welcome differences & explore them
- Allow taboo subjects to be raised safely
- Listen to your inner voice
- Slow the discussion
- Search for the underlying meaning
Goals of Dialogue
- The group agrees that no group-level decisions will be made in the conversation.“…In the dialogue group we are not going to decide what to do about anything. This is crucial. Otherwise we are not free. We must have an empty space where we are not obliged to anything, nor to come to any conclusions, nor to say anything or not say anything. It’s open and free” (Bohm, “On Dialogue”, p. 18-19.)”
- Each individual agrees to suspend judgement in the conversation. (Specifically, if the individual hears an idea he doesn’t like, he does not attack that idea.) “…people in any group will bring to it assumptions, and as the group continues meeting, those assumptions will come up. What is called for is to suspend those assumptions, so that you neither carry them out nor suppress them. You don’t believe them, nor do you disbelieve them; you don’t judge them as good or bad…(Bohm, “On Dialogue”, p. 22.)”
- As these individuals “suspend judgement” they also simultaneously are as honest and transparent as possible. (Specifically, if the individual has a “good idea” that he might otherwise hold back from the group because it is too controversial, he will share that idea in this conversation.)
- Individuals in the conversation try to build on other individuals’ ideas in the conversation. (The group often comes up with ideas that are far beyond what any of the individuals thought possible before the conversation began.)
We sit in a circle with a “talking stick” in the middle (not all Bohm dialogue groups do this). Whoever feels moved to picks up the stick and says whatever they think or feel about the topic while everyone else listens attentively and with an open mind. When they finish they put the stick back in the middle and everyone quietly thinks about what was said for a while. After a while someone else picks up the stick and so on. It is OK to speak more than once or not at all. Unlike Chalice circles it is OK to reference what someone else has said, respectfully express contrasting thoughts/feelings, ask for clarification, etc. In fact it is great if participants can build on what was said before. At around 8:30pm we will end the Dialogue and we will group-evaluate the session on how well we stayed on topic, and adhered to the Bohm Dialogue principles.
Everyone is welcome. You are welcome to think about the topic beforehand but no preparation is required or expected — come as you are with whatever thoughts/feelings/intuitions you have, ready to listen, learn and contribute. Our next meeting will be on February 16th at 7pm in the Brackett Room.
How Dialogue Differs from Chalice Circles
Some have asked how Bohm Dialogue differs from the Chalice Circles that they have participated in at First Parish. Both formats emphasize one person speaking at a time and respectful listening. But while Chalice Circles prohibit “crosstalk” (referring to something said by another member), in Dialogue “crosstalk” is permitted and even encouraged including agreement, disagreement, modification, expansion on and asking for clarification of others’ comments — as long as it is done respectfully and addressed to the whole group rather than to an individual. Ideally this crosstalk leads to a synergistic building upon each others thoughts resulting in new insights that no one might reach alone.
Another difference from Chalice Circles is that there are no check-in or check-out periods — once the dialogue begins, all talk is limited to the chosen topic. There is no sharing of personal milestones, joys and concerns, etc., except as they may directly relate to the chosen topic. At the end of the dialogue there is a time for feedback on how well the Dialogue went and a time to choose the next topic.
List of proposed future topics:
- cancel culture
- art of conversation, have people lost it
- how do you get to know people deeply
- acquaintance vs friendship
- science and religion
- calling your own fouls
- identity politics
- peak experiences, altered states
- syndicalism and capitalism
- fake news
- social media and the ripping apart of society
- what is evil?
- loneliness, (hire a child in Japan)
- logotherapy – Victor Frankl Man’s Search for Meaning
- individual and community
- Gemeinschaft (German pronunciation: [ɡəˈmaɪnʃaft]) and Gesellschaft ([ɡəˈzɛlʃaft]), generally translated as “community and society”
- Tribe blindness, the inability to integrate facts into their world view.
- Tribalistic blinded monotone, mob mentality, easily manipulatable.
- political action
- our (in)ability to change others’ minds
- pets and people
- Jung – again
- effects of Christian apocalypse culture on America
- that political crap
- conscientious objection
- God’s punishment to <whatever> for our/their <sins>
- gutting of the EPA
- To what or whom are you closed? (from Jack Kornfield quote)
- Rebalancing Society: Radical Renewal Beyond Left, Right, and Center By Henry Mintzberg
Past Salon Topics and Articles:
- 4/18/21 – Bias
- 3/21/21 – Heaven
- 2/21/21 – Books
- 1/17/21 – Free Speech
- 11/15/20 – Meritocracy
- 10/18/20 – Creativity
- 9/20/20 – Tribe
- 8/16/20 – Narrative
- 7/19/20 – Growth
- 6/21/20 – The Economy
- 5/17/20 – Questions Raised by the Pandemic
- 4/19/20 – What passes for God
- 2/16/20 – Inequality
- 1/19/20 — The Need For Community
- 12/15/19 – Rituals and Tradition
- 11/17/19 – Dreaming
- 10/20/19 – Supernatural
- 8/18/19 – Mindfulness
- 7/21/19 – Human Reasoning
- 6/16/19 — Spirituality and Religion
- 5/19/19 — Socialism
- 3/17/19 — Consciousness
- 2/17/19 – Death, loss and Transition
- 12/16/18 – The Value of Community
- 11/18/18 – The Crisis of Liberal Democracy
- 10/21/18 – Political Correctness
- 9/16/18 – How to Talk About Gender Equality
- 7/22/18 – Morality
- 5/20/18 – Soul
- 4/15/18 – The Self
- 3/18/18 – Free Will
- 2/18/18 – Freedom and Responsibility
- 1/21/18 – I-thou and I-it attitude (Martin Buber)
- 12/17/17 – What is war for?
- 11/19/17 – Changing Minds
- 10/15/17 – How do people find meaning?
- 9/24/17 – What Replaces God in secular society?
- 5/21/17 — Your Ultimate Question — and Answer?
- 4/23/17 – A Sustainable World & Human Nature
- 3/19/17 – Global Warming
- 2/19/17 — Idealism
- 1/15/17 — Heaven (on earth) or a Discussion of Same?
- 12/11/16 — How Do We Decide How to Vote
- 11/13/16 — Automation and Us
- 5/15/16 — Jung
- 4/17/16 — Your Spiritual Backpack
- 2/28/16 — Racism
- 1/17/16 — Stuff
- 12/20/15 — Gratitude
- 11/22/15 — Friendship
- 10/18/15 — Work
- 9/20/15 — Belonging
- 5/17/15 — Death
- 4/19/15 — Free Market America
- 3/15/15 — Being Mortal
- 2/22/15 — Denial, Detachment, Non-attachment
- 1/18/15 — Creativity
- 12/21/14 – Decision Making (cont’d)
- 11/16/14 – Decision Making
- 10/26/14 – Altruism & Selfishness in Human Nature
- 9/21/14 – Justice